Most men and women believe that in order to be considered as a good lovers they need only to know how to bring their partners to orgasm. That simple orientations brings many couples to the point when they feel worry about their ability and energy capacity to achieve orgasm themselves or to bring their partners […]

Her Body Is Mine

A French couple came to me for a consultation. They had almost filed for divorce. The problem was that the woman had a lover. We talked for a couple of hours and they gave me a lot of details about the relationship and their marriage. They had children and had been married for ten years. […]

Angel or Slut?

“Men want to marry an angel but in bed they want a slut” This idea comes from a very limited understanding of sex and from the idea that the woman should seduce the man to arouse his sexual energy. Deep down in every man there is a strong fear of not being aroused, so men […]

ED – Erectile Dysfunction

I received an email from a man, 31 years old, looking for help with his problem with erection. “How can I go about overcoming the sexual difficulties me and my partner have been experiencing? For a long time I’ve had some form of ED. I can achieve an erection without problem during foreplay, masturbation or […]

What is intimacy?

We all want intimacy though we often do not understand that intimacy is different from just being sexual or having sexual desire. We all want to be sexually attractive. This is a deep and fundamental desire in everyone and it gives us confidence, inspiration, energy, a sense of power and well-being. As human beings we are […]

Sexual Innocence

What is innocence? Innocence in general terms is lack of guilt, or lack of wrong doing. It means a person never committed any crime or other offense. We usually attribute innocence to children. They still don’t know about ‘bad things’ or have deliberately bad intentions. They have what we call innocent eyes, not desiring anything that […]

My man is too passive!

A woman tells me she finds her man too passive, not taking enough initiative to have sex. Here I first want to make you aware of that we all have a different amount of physical, sexual energy in our bodies that makes us want to have sex. The initiative towards having sex, whether it comes from the man or the women, depends […]

True lovers

During true lovemaking your hands become your eyes, your ears, your brain. Your hands can know everything about your lover just by touching them. And your hands can pass everything on through touch. When people make love they should become like blind people, hypersensitive. A blind person reacts to the slightest sound, to the slightest […]

Male and female sexuality. Cats and dogs!

The male body is in its nature like a dog in the best sense. A dog is always ready to jump and run to catch the ball or stick. It wants to do it over and over again. A man is always ready to participate in sex to “get” an orgasm. It is the biological purpose […]